Hello friend,
I have always been the woman that feeds everyone.
In restaurant kitchens, when the line was pushing 100 degrees and no one had time to stop, I was the one bringing water down the pass. Cooking staff meal even when I didn’t sit down to eat. Loving on my team the way I knew how, through food.
That instinct never left me.
The Tension Between Generosity and Earning
I believe in earning. I believe in expansion. I believe in building something strong and sustainable. And I also believe deeply in giving back.
For a long time, I thought those two beliefs were in tension.
If I charge fully, am I still generous?
If I hold my standard, am I still accessible?
If I earn well, am I still in service?
These are the questions many women quietly wrestle with.
We are taught to overdeliver. To soften our edges. To discount our work so no one feels excluded. We are praised for sacrifice, for endurance, for feeding everyone else first.
But here is what I am learning.
Generosity vs Self-Erasure
There is a difference between generosity and self-erasure.
Generosity is a choice. Self-erasure is a reflex.
Generosity says, “I am resourced enough to give.”
Self-erasure says, “I must diminish to be good.”
This week, I found myself navigating that line again. Adjusting pricing. Choosing not to compromise the quality of my cookbook just to make it cheaper. Covering certain costs because I wanted to, not because I felt pressured to.
The difference was subtle but powerful.
I was not leaking, I was choosing.
Standing Fully in the Value of Your Work
Abundance is not built by undercutting yourself. It is built by standing fully in the value of what you offer and then giving from overflow.
You can feed the room and still eat.
You can serve deeply and still earn well.
You can give back without bending yourself out of shape.
In fact, that is the only way generosity stays clean.
Learning to Receive
The women I work with are leaders. Caregivers. Creators. Builders. They know how to dig deep and reach high.
What many of us are still learning is how to receive.
How to let our work hold weight.
How to let our pricing reflect integrity.
How to let our nourishment matter too.
Feeding others is sacred work.
But so is feeding yourself.
If we want our generosity to last, it must be rooted in wholeness, not depletion.
The Heart of Soul Nourished
This is the heartbeat behind the Soul Nourished cookbook.
Recipes and rituals rooted in integrity, presence, and feeding what matters.